Hey, hey, hey ladies. I’m back with a quick one. I got tired of writing about relationships and sex, when something exciting happens in my love life and I get inspiration to write something, I will. But for now, it’s not that deep or important.
So let’s now please focus on ourselves. I want to talk about the importance of creating a strong relationship with yourself. Sounds all preachy and stuff, but it’s needed and it’s important. This ain’t no therapy session, but we gon talk about some things.
A lot of us put large amounts of time, energy, money and even our bodies into other people. We focus so hard on maintaining relationships, with our family, friends, partners, that we forget to put some good ole work into maintaining a relationship with ourselves. A healthy relationship that is. You have to remember that you are all you have. You have to look after yourself, mentally, physically and spiritually. I’ve already talked about mental health in a previous post.
And physically, obviously means, what you’re putting into your body, like food and of course exercise.
But spiritually is a factor we tend to forget. I like to think of it as, me, myself and I. (And the many other versions of myself) I have created relationships with all of them, learnt their pros and cons; and got to know when they are needed. This is a work in progress, but let me explain. There is me as a whole and then there are various versions. There is happy me, sad me, I wanna be alone me, let’s go hang out me, productive me, not so productive me, I could go on and on. The point is, is to accept the fact that you are not perfect. There are many sides to a woman, we are not this one prototype. We can be one person today and another person tomorrow. And that is fine. You can change your mind.
The point of the matter is, take time to find yourself or your many selfs. Whatever it is, just make sure to put yourself first. Your health, your happiness, your well-being. Shower yourself in self-love girl.
Do not ever forget to want more for yourself. If you aren’t happy about something in your life, change it, cut it out. Don’t have no money, go make some. Take some vitamins, go for a run, learn that language you always wanted to learn. Apply for that course you’re too scared to go to, book that flight, run that race. You dig? I make it sound easy and it’s not. Nothing in the adult world is. What I’m saying is you just gotta do it.
What I’m trying to say is do not limit yourself because of your fears. Be smart, but don’t be afraid to take risks, jump in and get s**t done. Don’t let your fears hold you back, don’t let your fears consume you. Don’t let your fears funnel their way down into the next generation. So many people are afraid and allow those fears to affect their relationships. So much so, that when they have kids, they push those fears on to their children. Next thing you know, they are afraid to live life too.
That’s why it’s so important for me to live my life, so one day when I eventually decide to have kids (maybe). I can teach and raise them to live life to fullest. I can actually create good human beings for the future. This is what I meant by, putting yourself first. It sounds selfish, but at the end of the day, doing you means you will eventually help the people in your life. It all starts with you. Wanting to be in a healthy relationship, with your dream man or wanting to have the dream job, means you have to sort your s**t out. You can’t have any of that until you do so. Not truly happily anyway.
I just figured this out and it’s exciting. It’s exciting to think of all the things you can do when you just accept yourself. When you just decide to be happy, when you decide to do you. It’s crazy to think that a lot of girls and even grown women are walking around not knowing this.
If this post made no sense to you, then you haven’t gotten there yet. Maybe you will understand one day. I’m never deleting this blog, so I can come back and laugh at how ridiculous I was a few years from now. So you can come back here whenever you want. Come back as many times, till it makes sense. Come back to argue if you really want to. I’m here.
Stop running away life, stop running towards these f!&%kboys, start running towards dem goals. (I ain’t telling you what to do tho)
Run towards yourself babygirl. You’ll get there eventually.
Until next time,