A quick lil post with the usual ranting antics. Being in your twenties can seem like a real struggle sometimes. Your just starting out in life, you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re broke, you’re living with mummy and daddy (if you’re lucky) and everything just seems like its going nowhere.
But do not fret. Feed The Queen is here to help. As a fellow 20 something year old, I can understand the pain of being completely lost. But its not all bad. Being in your twenties means you simply have more years to make the most out of your life. I don’t want to get to 50 and realise I haven’t done anything with my life or completely regret the decisions I made. Imagine waking up in a bed with a man you dont love or being stuck in a dead end job taking orders from someone who doesnt give a damn about your life. Dramatic huh?
So I complied a list of what I think you should be doing to survive the horrible 20s. It helps me, so it might help you.
Now this is something that I have only come to realise. Something’s aren’t supposed to be permanent. This can be for jobs, houses and most importantly people. You have to realise that you are going to go through different phases in your life. And that means that sometimes certain people are not going to move into the next phase with you. This can be hard to hear, because the thought of not talking to a certain friend or not being with your current boyfriend can be depressing. But thats life. And the first step in being an adult is accepting that life is a bitch.
Sorry to break it to you.
Again, something I am now starting to now do. And that is… Making myself happy. I’ve talked about this in previous posts. If it doesn’t make you happy, cut it out. Do what you want (in moderation) live your life. If something or someone is being a downer… You know what to do.
Not believing in yourself or what you can do, WILL limit your opportunities in life. If, in your mind believes you cannot do something, well guess what… you’re not going to be able to do it. I still haven’t been able to learn how to swim, because I’m convinced I’m going to die. 😂
The point is, have confidence in yourself. Believe in yourself and what you can do.
Have you ever been invited out to an event or with friends and because of maybe anxiety or something like that… You cancel or say no? Or maybe a guy asked you out, but you got scared, because of your insecurities. This goes back to being confident, but the point is don’t be afriad to live your life. Say yes more, experience life, see what it has to offer you. You will make mistakes but thats OK… You learn from them.
This is the phrase of my life. ITS NOT THAT DEEP. Life is too short to be worrying about men or some other person. Life is too short to be worrying about whether someone likes you or if you’ve got a spot on your face. Petty nonsense like that will hold you back love. Relax, go with flow. There are people in all around the world that are suffering, things that you could never imagine are happening right now. So I try not to complain and moan about my little problems, because it really isn’t that deep. I might be broke, hungry (I have food, I’m just being spoilt. First world problems.) and single, but I’m alive with a roof over my head.
This goes back to confidence and all of that. Knowing when to really jump into a situation and challenge yourself is the key to growth. And being in your twenties is all about growth. Its OK to push yourself sometimes and come out of your comfort zone, thats how you learn. Go learn Spanish, like you always wanted to or finally learn to swim (like I’ve been planning to do for the longest time)
The basic lesson to take from this post is to just live your life. I want to look back and can say that I really enjoyed my twenties, that it was a crazy time, but I enjoyed it.
Any advice for us twentie year olds? Comment below.
Until next time, stay blessed Queens.